Respite Revisited: Finding the Balance

What might seem like an impossible and daunting task, just might be the one thing that could help you keep your sanity as you make your journey through the caregiving process. As human beings we can be quick to help others, but when it comes to helping ourselves, we might forget or not know how. Before you mention money or time, consider this: your car is a necessity that most people would not be able to function without. To keep this asset, it requires gas, oil changes and monthly maintenance to keep the car from breaking down. Avoiding these requirements will result in a car on the side of the road.

Taking care of others and not putting any time into yourself will result in emotional breakdowns.

  • 15 minute yoga sessions — Find some quick videos online with a quick search, close the door and take that time to center yourself before the day starts.
  • 30 minute book sessions — Schedule this the way that you would anything else. Top it off by making a cup of hot tea or coffee. Make sure you set a timer or alarm so that you can enjoy the time and not have to think about when you need to stop.
  • Take a bath — you already have to, why not light some candles and make it enjoyable.
  • Call a friend — no matter what. Make an appointment to call a friend once a week at the same time on the same day. This way you will avoid phone tag and the frustration of not getting ahold of a person.
  • Make date night non-negotiable — This one might be the hardest to sneak into your busy life, but might be one of the most important. If you can’t spare a whole night: take an hour for coffee or a dessert break for some frozen yogurt. Just remember — no talk about schedules, the elder in your life, or the kids.

Care giving should not be underestimated in the toll that it can take on a person’s life, emotionally and physically. It is a full time job and should be treated as such with breaks and vacations as needed. If you are finding that you might need an extra hand every now again, let us see how we can help you.

Posted on February 15, 2011